HW 57

Part 1:

What makes a good parent ? this is a very important question. I think parenting is about fixing mistakes, the mistakes of your own life.Parenting is trying to fix on the areas that you did not like about the way you were raised and changing and turning them around as you raise your own child. This is how you become a good parent.

Parenting is a twenty-four hour a day job, day in day out. Its a time were the child and the parent our still in may respects growing up , its a chaotic time. It the time were tough decisions our made , when you find out if your a "good parent" , where skills are developed to their fullest potential.

So what makes a good parent? A good parent is a person who is kind, patient,considerate, understanding, a good listener, helpful, , and authoritative at the proper times. But more then anything you have to love your child.You have to recognize your child's a individual, who will grow up to be a person, a person who might just grow up to be jut like you. We all make mistakes.We all fail.We all make bad decisions. Parenting is about falling and learning to pick yourself back up. Learning that you might bot be a "great" parent but all that matters, is you tryed, you did your best and gave all your love.The times that you want to be selfish and put yourself before your child you always choose your child.

Part 2:

I think parents get to focused on the theory of punishment ,they feel that every time their child misbehaves, they have to come up with some elaborate punishment to teach them a lesson. But most of these punishments end up never working. The parent is then left "defeated", like theirs nothing they can do to get through to their child.

My feeling is that nobody ever is really changed from being punished. Our society thrives on the idea of punishment but it seem to me our society also has a very high re-offense rate.So theirs seems to be a disconnect between the punishment and the lesson to be taught from it.We continue to be punished but we continue the same acts all way from drug use to speeding on the highway. I’m not trying to say people shouldn't’t be punished for their crimes but what is the point of punishment without learning, what is the point when theirs no change in behavior.

A punishment that does not involve learning how to solve the same issue the right way next time and being held accountable for your behavior is not effective. For example when a child is being down right rude to their parent, the parent therefore grounds him for let say a month but now what ? the child is just going to do time; he'll do his month and then be free. What has the child really learned? That parent have some misplaced believe that the child will learn If he or she does it again, he or she is going to be grounded for a month. But the sad truth is that when he's upset, he won’t remember that punishment at all. In fact, most kids and even many adults can't and don't recall past punishments with enough power to affect current behavior.

I think to really change behavior we must come away from the idea of punishments, and rename and refocus to the idea of consequences . When a child is given a unpleasant consequences it should be a learning experience. For instance, when a child is being rude the parent can decide that the child cannot use the computer until he treats his family with respect, but this consequence must be followed up with a discussion. By doing this the consequences our on point and really teaching thew lesson in this case ,respect and self-control. The whole idea is too teach the child what his responsibilities are, teach him how to meet them and then hold he or she accountable if they don’t. I think this helps the child to learn to function successfully in life.